21 Things I Have Learned
First of all I just want to say thank you so much for all the birthday wishes. I loved reading all the sweet messages! It made my day 10X better!!! <3
In my 21 years of existence, I think it's safe to say I've learned some pretty valuable life lessons and things I've learned about myself. I figured I would write up a list and share it with you because maybe some can be applied to your life!? Maybe? If not, either way I'm writing it cuz it's fun haha :)
1. Sometimes it's better to ask for forgiveness than permission.
If you're really wanting to do something, do it. As long as it's not harming your life and health, do it. Maybe, It might potentially hurt someone's feelings but as much as these people contribute to your life, you're the one living it. We can't always be living our life for others.
2. All people dislike something about themselves.
Everyone has their own struggles even if they don't make them known. Everyone has at least one insecurity, but physicalities are just physicalities and they will never define us as a person.
3. Friends come and go.
I should probably make this an entire blog post because I could go on and on about this topic. But for now I'll stick with this...
Truth is the older you get the harder it becomes to make friends. In high school I had friends everywhere... in school, family friends, and in other outside activities. But as I got older all those "friends" started to fade. I sometimes found myself being too desperate to find new friends. I would cry and think "is something wrong with me?!" It took me a while to finally be ok with the fact that I didn't have all the friends I used to have. Most of your friends will come and go. Some will remain forever and that's a great feeling. But it isn't that way for everyone, and that is OK. I'd rather have 2 very good friends than 10 really crappy ones.
4. What others think of you will never be your business.
As long as you don't do something bad...It's your life and if they have something negative to say or think about you then that's their deal. Simple as that. There's been many situations I've found myself crying because I didn't know why some people would think bad things about me or I didn't feel accepted. And then I realized the opinions of others will never be more than just opinions. You're the one walking in your shoes. You're the one that only knows the real you. As long as you're trying to become a better person everyday, that's all that matters.
5. Someone always has it worse. And someone always has it better. That's just the way it is.
I try really hard to always remember this... Someone will always be better at something than you... but you'll always be better at something than someone else. Someone will always be in a tougher situation than you... and you'll always be in a tougher situation than someone else. Understand this and move on. Don't ever compare yourself and or your life because I guarantee that is not the right path to a happier, healthy life.
7. You're allowed to be wrong, but admit to it when you are.
We are going to be wrong millions of times in our life and we're going to make mistakes and that's ok. You're not perfect, I'm not perfect and neither is everyone else. Let's swallow our pride and own up to our mistakes. Apologize (and mean it) and move on. If people don't forgive you then that's really on them at that point. We've done our part.
8. Taking a risk will always be scary. But don't hold back or look back.
I can relate to this in so many ways. Moving to California was a HUGE move for me. It was so different than what I was use to. I was scared but hey... I go where my husband goes right?! So sure we always want to play it safe... but sometimes taking that risk will take us farther in life than we ever thought.
9. You weren't born to follow the crowd. Stand out.
Be your own person. Don't do things just to blend in with what everyone else does. Do what makes you truly happy. If you want to change your style, then do it. If you want to start a blog and make it a career, then do it. If you want to become a chef, then do it. Whatever the case may be let's just do whatever makes us feel confident and empowered. Shall we?! (As long as it's not something bad).
10. My grammar is rough.
This is pretty hard to admit because it makes me feel a tad embarrassed. Growing up learning Spanish and English at the same time really messed up certain aspects of my grammar. I always get my in's and on's confused, instead of saying etcetera I say eccetera...and there's more. Maybe I have always done that, but I've realized it more now since Spencer points it out EVERY single time haha, but I guess he thinks it's cute so I have learned to be ok with it! ;)
11. Forgiveness doesn't make you weak and cutting someone out of your life doesn't make you cold.
Forgiving someone does NOT make you weak. First off, it's helps you "get over" the situation a little better and holding grudges just isn't mentally healthy. Secondly, it proves that your strength is greater than your ego. It proves that you are mature enough to move on. However, forgiving doesn't necessarily mean that person has to stay in your life forever. Sometimes we just need to really forgive and move on.
12. Make friends with yourself.
Treat yourself the way you would treat someone you cherish. In the end, you're all you've got. We spend too much time being our own worst enemy. So let's love ourselves! Please!!
13. You pick up energies from the people you surround yourself with.
If you hang around a negative person, you'll pick up on their negative energy. And same goes for hanging out with a positive person. It goes for anyone. Who we hang out with the most, we sort of become like them in different ways. So be picky and choose friends wisely ;)
14. Honesty is the best policy.
I used to think telling a little white lie here and there was okay, but the older I’m getting the more I’ve learned that honesty is definitely the best policy. It really goes a long way.
15. I value my culture.
I’ve never been more proud of who I am and where my people came from. And it's been SO fun teaching Spencer about it and watch him fall in love with it as well. #Colombianforlyfe
16. Grateful for what I have.
I try really hard lately to just be grateful for life and for what I have at the moment. Sometimes we just want the next big thing, the new in...but we forget to be grateful for simply being able to live, eat, to have a bed to fall asleep on, to have a roof over our heads, for the people in our lives... don't ever take those things for granted!!!
17. I’m a lot like my dad.
Every year I realize more and more how alike my father and I are. A few examples: We both have very strong personalities and now I see why growing up him and I would argue a lot haha. But I've also noticed that we both love being there for people, we love to give and serve. My father is one of the most genuine, giving, beautiful souls I've ever had the pleasure to have in my life. And I'm sooo grateful to be a little like him. Hes the bomb.com!
18. My husband is my best friend.
You guys knew this already, duh! But it won't hurt to say again. Spence is my all time bestie for the restie (literally). Even before we got married or even before we dated he was my best friend. We were always so open with each other and as time goes by, I notice how compatible and inseparable we are. Couldn't have found a better bestie to do this life with!
19. Writing is important.
Growing up writing in my diary was my every day thing, by the time I hit high school I thought it was dumb and let it go. Now that I'm writing again I'm realizing how freaking AWESOME it is!!! Writing is a skill we learn from a very young age. It’s how we communicate with the world around us. It’s also how we express feelings and share information with others. It allows us to be creative and "escape" from life. So DO IT! Just do it! ;)
20. Live life. Enjoy life.
Go hiking, go skiing, try out new restaurants, go explore a new town, explore the world... whatever it is that you want to do, just go do it! One of mine and Spencer's goals in life is to be able to explore all the places in the world that we are interested in and dining at their finest restaurants. I know, we dream big lol. But life is too short so live it and enjoy it to the fullest! :)
21. Family is my everything!
Growing up my parents always made us spend time together. Whether it was to go eat ice cream together, or go to the movies together, or have nightly family prayers. When I was in high school I went through a stage where all of that bugged me. Sometimes I just wanted to be alone or with friends. Now that I'm older and doing my own life, I can say with all certainty I miss that family time. I miss my family. But at the same time I've never felt closer to them. They are seriously my rock!
Thanks for reading, guys! I really enjoyed writing this. It was a much needed time of reflection of everything I've come to learn.
PS: Below are a few pics I took on my birthday of theee cutest coffee shop here in San Diego!
Much love, Laura