You know what really gets to me...People getting belittled for being different. Lately, I have been struggling with feeling a lot of sadness and anger towards those that hardcore bash out on minority people in this country. We are belittled, we are talked about as if we were all bad people, as if we're not smart enough, or we are too different, etc... (If you're one of those people, that enjoys making fun of others and belittles people for whatever reason, I really encourage you to change your mentality and try to be a better person; sorry not sorry!). All of that has made me feel a lot of anger, and it has really messed with my self-acceptance, at times. I am a girl that usually does not let anything like that affect me, I tend to not really care about what others think of me, especially if they don't really know me. But it is hard because It's not just me being talked about here, there are many others like me getting the same belittlement. That brings me to why I am writing this post.
Some think beauty is only what is on the outside. How a person looks like, the color of their skin, the type of hair a person has, how they dress, where you come from, etc... I think you know where I'm going with this. I use to be one that thought that also. When I was little, I use to want to be like your "typical" american girl. Blonde, straight hair, blue eyes, very beautiful but with time that changed.
ou want to know what kind of beauty I love and believe in now???
I love the beauty that palpitates through my body when my husbands hand is on the back of my messy hair, and his lips are pressed against mine. I love the beauty of how I feel on the beach, when my hair is stuck to my face by the salty ocean water and the way my skin feels being touched by the sand and sun. I love the beauty of my sweaty face and squealing voice as I belt out lyrics at concerts. I love photos that capture my beauty during unrehearsed moments. I love the beauty of spending endless time with family and friends. I love the beauty of walking around on the streets and seeing couples affection, that I can tell how madly in love they are. I love the beauty of those who on a daily do their best to show love, kindness, and appreciation. These are the times when I feel most beautiful because I’m alive, and I get to experience all of that, not because of what an exterior image has brainwashed me to believe. I strongly believe that the true beauty of a person is in the heart and the way it shines through. Happiness, goodness & confidence doesn't stem from what a person looks like, how they compare to others, and it all comes down to LOVE: love for God, love for family, love for friends, love for life and most importantly love for yourself.
So my advice to you is...make the best of this life you live! How? By realizing that you are who you are; you are good, you are kind, you are loving, you are beautiful inside and out. We are all different shapes, sizes, colors, religions and heritage and that does NOT define who we truly are. It doesn't bring out the real beauty we hold within! You will never be the girl/boy next door, you will never be me or someone else. And that is the beauty of it all my friend. You are unique, beautiful and blessed with this life. So take what you have, embrace every inch of you, look in the mirror, and say "screw it, I really love ALL of myself!" and stop comparing yourself to others because that is wasted energy! The time you spend thinking about how others love themselves and you don't, is the time you are taking away from focusing on yourself. And let me tell you something that is true, above all- goodness and love is what attracts people to you and what makes you standout. It's literally the only thing that matters, and that is what I like to call real beauty. If you have that, then what else matters? Always remember, you are here for a reason. You are perfect from your core. And your purpose is to be light, and bring love to this messed up world!
Any comments or thoughts? I'd love to hear them! Thanks so much for spending time to read my post! You are very appreciated! <3
Much love, Laura