Who Am I To Judge Another When I Am Imperfect
I want to start this blog post by asking you a question...How much time do you spend judging others? Think about it. And be real with yourself. You know, I would love to be able to sit here as I am writing this and say I am such a wonderful, open, loving person who doesn't judge anyone, but that's just not the case. I judge. And I really hate it. It's one thing I do much more often than I should. I judge others clothing. I judge others actions. I judge others words. I know we all do this to some extent (yes, this includes religious people as well). Though I'm becoming a lot more comfortable with who I am and judge others less, I still have a long way to go.
Spence and I had a conversation a couple nights ago and after much talking we came in agreement that judgement has become a habit for everyone, it's a way to bond with others. I also know that it relates completely to how we feel about ourselves. If you are 100% happy with who you are, you are a lot less likely to feel the need to judge others. Am I right? You know I'm onto something here. We determine who is 'in' and who is 'out' based on our beliefs. Who is good, and who is evil. Who is worthy of our love, and who is not. I HATE that!!! Don't you?
After having changed so much in relation to my attitude lately, I know I have the ability to change and to stop placing judgments on others. I want to be a more happy and positive person and judging others does not make me any happier. No one is going to put an end to my judging for me. But just like happiness, it's up to me to make the change! I put a list together of things that I believe will help me with being less judgmental and I want to share it with you guys.
Monitoring my thoughts: I'm going to work on paying more attention to my thoughts and do my best to push them in a positive direction.
Always look for the positive: Spencer is SO good with this, and he seriously motivates me more to becoming a better person. Judgments, as we know are negative but there is almost always something positive you can find in someone or something.
Ditch Stereotyping: Stereotypes are never good. I really try to avoid them, but I know I don't always. As I said above, they really create a lot of negativity in the world and I know I don't want to be a part of that.
Quit Judging Yourself: the more we judge ourselves, the more we'll judge others. I need to focus on the positive aspects of me and then it will be a lot easier to focus on the positive aspects of others.
FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFE!!! I think that is pretty self explanatory!
Don't treat others like you wouldn't want to be treated: Recall the last time you were judged. Did that hurt your feelings? It doesn't feel good to judge or to be judged so put an end to it right now.
So what do you say?
Let's give a little more kindness and a little less judgment to the world, yeah?!
"Open minded people do not impose their beliefs on others. They just accept all of life's perspectives and realities, doing their own thing in peace without judgement"
Much love, Laura