What Moving to California Has Taught Me
I'm not the kind of person that loves change. In fact, I really dread change haha. I have noticed that every time I go through a big change in my life at first I'm very optimistic, very positive and excited. Then, once I'm living the change the anxiety pursues, but just a little of anxiety. Next comes major stress and sadness as the change is actually occurring. And finally, there’s an expectation that the stress will settle, but it always take longer than you think.
As many of you know, I moved from Houston to San Diego once I married. I was BEYOND stoked, in fact I was so stoked that I was not thinking of even missing anything about my 'old' life, at the moment. The first few days I was in San Diego was a dream. I mean who wouldn't love living in Cali, huh? As time went by I began to feel so lonely, so sad, but why? I mean, I had my husband, I was living in one of the most beautiful places, this was what I wanted, I really did not understand at all.
I moved to Houston from Colombia when I was about 4yrs old and since then that has always been my home. Never even thought of leaving because I loved it so much. I never moved out of my parents house until the day I got married and came to San Diego. It was THE BIGGEST CHANGE OF MY LIFE! (So far). It's been about 11 months since I moved here, and I have to admit it wasn't until recently that all of that anxiety and sadness went away. Yes, I still miss my family, of course, Houston will always be home to me, but Spencer is my home, he is my family, he is what is important, and after a few months of living this BIG change, I want to share with you what I have learned with this the transition.
ITS DIFFICULT BUT NOT WRONG
When something gets difficult or stressful, we start to question if it was the right decision, right? I think it’s important, especially during something like a move or starting a new job, or anything that is a big change in your life, to remember that just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It would be impossible for a big move to be completely smooth without having a tad of stress, but that doesn’t make it wrong. The key is to draw apart these two feelings in your mind: stressed and glad. They both can exist at the same time. ITS NORMAL.
THE STRESS DOESN'T LAST FOREVER
When I’m feeling really anxious and sad it’s so difficult to see past that. But knowing that the stress is just a phase can be so relieving. THINGS DO GET BETTER!
Ah! Patience, that's my worst enemy. It’s honestly the biggest thing I struggle with, but trying to get better at. You can ask my husband, I don't have the best patiencce in the world, haha. Anyway, the second I got to San Diego, I wanted life to begin, right then and there. I wanted my apartment to be perfectly setup, my daily routine to be in place, etc. Unfortunately, things didn't work that way. I constantly needed to remind myself that life will fall into place, but it would take longer than I’d like. I needed to remember that I would look back on these last few months and barely remember the in-between phase. Life will settle. JUST BE PATIENT!
If you are going through some big change in your life right now, I hope reading this will help in some way. I'm not an expert haha but it is what has gotten me through this transition. Thanks for reading! Until next time loves!
Much love, Laura